Question 1

Regardless of sexual orientation,most couples have one partner that takes on most of the burden of caring for the relational health of the couple.

Accepted Answer

A) True 
 B)False  False

Question 2

The author of your textbook writes that gendered orientations influence four dimensions of long-term love relationships: modes of expressing care,needs for autonomy and connection,responsibility for relational maintenance,and power.Discuss how heterosexual couples may differ from same-sex couples on two of the four dimensions.

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Gendered Modes of Expressing Affection: Heterosexual couples who follow traditional gender patterns may encounter misunderstanding around expressing affection in that the woman may express care through talk whereas the man may express care through doing things for his partner.Gay and lesbian couples are less likely to face such misunderstandings because they share perspectives on how to communicate affection.In lesbian couples,partners are mutually attentive to nurturing and emotional openness.This may explain why lesbians report greater satisfaction with their relationships than either gay men or heterosexual couples. Gendered Preferences for Autonomy and Connection: Heterosexual couples who follow traditional gender patterns may experience tension around preferences for autonomy and connection.Masculine people are socialized to seek out autonomy and feminine people are socialized to seek out connection.Therefore,a masculine-oriented man may feel suffocated by a feminine-oriented woman's desire for connection; similarly,a feminine woman may be hurt by a masculine man's desire for space and independence.Although the textbook doesn't specifically address lesbian and gay relationships along this dimension,it makes sense that partners in same-sex relationships would be more likely to have been socialized along similar gender lines and therefore share preferences for autonomy and connection. Gendered Responsibility for Relational Health: In lesbian couples,both partners typically have learned feminine ways of thinking and acting; as such,they are likely to be sensitive to interpersonal dynamics and interested in working through relationship problems.As such,lesbian partnerships are marked by shared responsibility for the health of the relationship.In heterosexual couples,on the other hand,women tend to do most of the relationship maintenance work; this is both a burden to the woman and may lead to difficulties in the relationship in that the woman may be perceived as a "nag" whereas the man may not recognize a problem exists until it is quite severe. Gendered power dynamics: In heterosexual relationships where partners follow traditional gender scripts,men typically have more power than women.One outcome of this is that women typically work a "second shift," engaging in the bulk of the domestic labor.In the past this power imbalance was compounded by the fact that men typically earned the entire or majority of the household income.Today,in the majority of heterosexual couples,both women and men work for wages; however,women continue to be responsible for most of the household work.Power imbalances between heterosexual partners also play out in terms of how each partner approaches conflict.Men tend to use more unilateral strategies when faced with conflict whereas women are more likely to defer or compromise.Finally,gendered power dynamics are displayed through the use of violence in some heterosexual couples; abusers tend to be more masculine and less feminine in their gender orientation than their partners.The problems that stem from assumptions about male power are not prominent in lesbian relationships; however,gay male relationships can be marked by competition over status and dominance.

Question 3

Socialization into gendered speech communities can make it challenging for men and women to be friends.

Accepted Answer

A) True 
 B)False  True

Question 4

Define the following 
-Feminine ruler:

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-Feminine ruler:...

Question 5

Which of the following are features of feminine (often female)friendships?

Accepted Answer

A)   They often contain covert intimacy.
B)   Doing activities together is the primary way to build closeness.
C)   The friends do things for each other to show that they care.
D)   They are less likely than men's friendships to last if one friend moves away.
E)   None of the above.

Question 6

Which of the following is true about romantic relationships?

Accepted Answer

A)   Women tend to fall in love faster and harder than men.
B)   Women perceive of love in terms of taking trips to romantic places, spontaneously making love, and surprising their partners.
C)   In romantic relationships between women and men, attitudes toward sexual activity have undergone profound changes over the last several decades.
D)   Women are more likely than men to focus on relationship dynamics.
E)   All of the above.

Question 7

Lesbian relationships tend to be

Accepted Answer

A)   nonmonogamous.
B)   low in disclosure and support.
C)   egalitarian in distributing responsibilities for maintaining the relationship.
D)   primarily based on doing things rather than talking.
E)   longer-lasting than heterosexual relationships.

Question 8

Lesbians report greater satisfaction with their romantic relationships than either gay men or heterosexuals.

Accepted Answer

A) True 
 B)False

Question 9

Working women in heterosexual relationships typically engage in the majority of home and family care taking duties,which are frequently routine,repetitive,and constrained by deadlines.The term that this statement best defines is

Accepted Answer

A)   psychological responsibility.
B)   wonder woman syndrome.
C)   soccer mom.
D)   second-shift job.
E)   the Mommy Myth.

Question 10

Why are men assumed by some approaches to personal relationships to be deficient at developing and sustaining personal relationships?

Accepted Answer

A)   Men have been proven empirically to be bad at relationships.
B)   Women have been proven empirically to be the best at relationships.
C)   Many studies of men's relationships use the "feminine ruler" of talk as the basis of close relationships to judge men's relationships.
D)   Both A and B
E)   All of the above.

Question 11

Identify general patterns of similarities and differences in how masculine and feminine communication occurs within same sex friendships.(To make this question more challenging and integrateChapter 7 material,add: Explain how these differences grow out of gendered family socialization.)

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Question 12

Gay and lesbian couples tend to share perspectives on how to communicate affection.

Accepted Answer

A) True 
 B)False

Question 13

Define the following 
-The Mommy Myth

Accepted Answer

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-The Mommy Myth...

Question 14

Which of the following tends to be true about lesbian relationships?

Accepted Answer

A)   One partner tends to be expected to be the breadwinner.
B)   They tend to be based on tangible investments such as money and possessions.
C)   They tend to be bound by traditional gender roles.
D)   The partners involved tend to have the most equality of all types of relationships.
E)   None of the above.

Question 15

Emily feels that she and her partner Luke spend too much time together,and she wants more time for her individual interests and activities.Luke feels that they should spend most of their time with each other.The tension between them reflects

Accepted Answer

A)   tension over autonomy and connection.
B)   tension over bonding rituals.
C)   differences between desires for doing and talking.
D)   differences between desires for expression and instrumentality.
E)   none of the above.

Question 16

Define the following 
-Male deficit model

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-Male deficit model...

Question 17

In the movie When Harry Met Sally,Harry says to Sally that men and women cannot be friends.Your book discusses some challenges and benefits of cross-sex friendships.Note at least two challenges and two benefits of cross-sex friendships.For each of the challenges you mention,note one way that friends could help to navigate that potential issue.

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Question 18

Men who have sex with a lot of partners tend to be judged more harshly than women who do the same.

Accepted Answer

A) True 
 B)False

Question 19

Reflect on a nonromantic,close,same-sex friendship.In what ways does your friendship match or deviate patterns of friendships described in the book?

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Question 20

Gender differences are apparent in the ways people manage conflict.Feminine people, in general,tend to respond to conflict by

Accepted Answer

A)   defering or compromising to reduce tension.
B)   issuing ultimatums.
C)   refusing to listen or discuss an issue.
D)   asserting that the partner is blowing things out of proportion.
E)   all of the above.

Exam 9: Gendered Close Relationships

Regardless of sexual orientation,most couples have one partner that takes on most of the burden of caring for the relational health of the couple.

Socialization into gendered speech communities can make it challenging for men and women to be friends.

Define the following -Feminine ruler:

Which of the following are features of feminine (often female) friendships?

Which of the following is true about romantic relationships?

Lesbian relationships tend to be

Lesbians report greater satisfaction with their romantic relationships than either gay men or heterosexuals.

Working women in heterosexual relationships typically engage in the majority of home and family care taking duties,which are frequently routine,repetitive,and constrained by deadlines.The term that this statement best defines is

Why are men assumed by some approaches to personal relationships to be deficient at developing and sustaining personal relationships?

Identify general patterns of similarities and differences in how masculine and feminine communication occurs within same sex friendships.(To make this question more challenging and integrateChapter 7 material,add: Explain how these differences grow out of gendered family socialization.)

Gay and lesbian couples tend to share perspectives on how to communicate affection.

Define the following -The Mommy Myth

Which of the following tends to be true about lesbian relationships?

Emily feels that she and her partner Luke spend too much time together,and she wants more time for her individual interests and activities.Luke feels that they should spend most of their time with each other.The tension between them reflects

Define the following -Male deficit model

Men who have sex with a lot of partners tend to be judged more harshly than women who do the same.

Reflect on a nonromantic,close,same-sex friendship.In what ways does your friendship match or deviate patterns of friendships described in the book?

Gender differences are apparent in the ways people manage conflict.Feminine people, in general,tend to respond to conflict by