Question 1

Describe the three attachment styles that adults display in their relationships.

Accepted Answer

The three attachment styles that adults display in their relationships are secure lovers,fearful or avoidant lovers,and preoccupied or anxious-ambivalent lovers.Secure lovers are people who find it easy to get close to others and are comfortable having others feel close to them.Mutual dependency in a relationship (depending on the partner and having the partner depend on you)feels right to them.Secure lovers do not fear abandonment.Fearful or avoidant lovers are uncomfortable feeling close to another person or having that person feel close to them.It is difficult for them to trust or depend on a partner.Preoccupied or anxious-ambivalent style lovers want desperately to get close to a partner but often find the partner does not reciprocate the feeling,perhaps because anxious-ambivalent lovers scare away others.They are insecure in a relationship,worrying that the partner does not really love them.

Question 2

Which of the following are the four destructive patterns of interaction,as identified by Gottman?

Accepted Answer

A)  disparagement,disapproval,offensiveness,and acceptance
B)  condescension,contempt,disrespect,and defensiveness
C)  criticism,contempt,defensiveness,and withdrawal
D)  aggressiveness,submissiveness,defensiveness,and derision C

Question 3

After dating for two years,Richard proposes marriage to Cara.This reflects the _____ component of Sternberg's triangular theory of love.

Accepted Answer

A)  infatuation
B)  commitment
C)  lust
D)  passion B

Question 4

Steve says to his girlfriend,"I noticed you didn't seem particularly excited last night,when I suggested that we go away together for the weekend.Am I right?" This is Steve's attempt at

Accepted Answer

A)  paraphrasing his partner's messages.
B)  defensively communicating with his partner.
C)  validating his partner's feelings.
D)  drawing his partner out.

Question 5

Shelby and Rita are best friends who lean on each other during hard times and depend on each other for emotional support.According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love,the bond shared by Shelby and Rita reflects the fundamental component of _____.

Accepted Answer

A)  decision
B)  commitment
C)  intimacy
D)  passion

Question 6

The kind of love that is most often associated with individuals in a collectivistic society is

Accepted Answer

A)  love in an arranged marriage between people of similar social status.
B)  passionate love between individuals who do not marry.
C)  love that is high on components of intimacy and passion but low on the component of commitment.
D)  misattributed love based on physiological arousal states.

Question 7

Terry,an attractive 25-year-old,is interested in dating Brad who is a successful lawyer and is hardly interested in Bill who is a plumber.However,Jiya-a less attractive 24-year-old waitress-thinks that Bill would be an acceptable date.Which of the following explains Jiya's preference for Bill?

Accepted Answer

A)  matching phenomenon
B)  contrast effect
C)  misattribution of arousal
D)  mere-exposure effect

Question 8

Which of the following happens to a romantic relationship as it progresses over time?

Accepted Answer

A)  There is a shift,as the relationship progresses,from passionate to companionate love.
B)  The passionate component of love becomes very important in long-term relationships.
C)  Companionate love keeps the relationship together early on and then passionate love takes over.
D)  Companionate love is present at the beginning of the relationship but slowly diminishes over time.

Question 9

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love,sticking with a relationship through times when it isn't particularly convenient is an expression of _____.

Accepted Answer

A)  infatuation
B)  commitment
C)  lust
D)  passion

Question 10

Anna has trouble trusting her boyfriend David.While David wants to engage in intimate conversations,Anna feels uncomfortable with this closeness.She also maintains an emotional distance from most people in her life.Which of the following attachment styles is Anna most likely to have?

Accepted Answer

A)  secure
B)  anxious-ambivalent
C)  preoccupied
D)  avoidant

Question 11

Terry is a politically liberal,attractive African-American man with a successful psychiatry practice.He regularly visits the gym where he meets several women.According to the matching phenomenon,which of the following women would Terry be most attracted to?

Accepted Answer

A)  Aisha,an 18-year-old second generation Indian immigrant,who is studying architecture at the state university
B)  Maria,a Hispanic social worker
C)  Jasmine,a liberal African-American woman,who is the first female attorney to be made a partner in the firm where she works
D)  Kathy,a white political activist

Question 12

The type of culture where two people,who have agreed to marry,describe their love for one another as companionate,or as a friendship with a great deal of respect for the other is most likely to be characterized by _____.

Accepted Answer

A)  collectivism
B)  individualism
C)  independence
D)  capitalism

Question 13

Which of the following would be the best predictor of adult attachment styles?

Accepted Answer

A)  separation from a parent during childhood by death
B)  separation from a parent during childhood by divorce
C)  one's perception of the quality of the relationship with parents
D)  one's experience in sexual relationships during the adolescence period

Question 14

According to the triangular theory of love,actions such as intimate communication with one's partner and giving and receiving emotional support to and from a loved one are expressions of _____.

Accepted Answer

A)  lust
B)  infatuation
C)  passion
D)  intimacy

Question 15

_____ refers to a set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive.

Accepted Answer

A)  Fighting fair
B)  Checking out
C)  Drawing one's partner out
D)  Rules of apathy

Question 16

According to the attachment theory of love,_____ lovers are people who are uncomfortable feeling close to another person and having that person feel close to them.

Accepted Answer

A)  secure
B)  fearful or avoidant
C)  approach
D)  anxious-ambivalent

Question 17

"The last time we made love,I enjoyed it and felt very aroused,but then I didn't have an orgasm and I felt disappointed." This statement is an example of

Accepted Answer

A)  defensiveness.
B)  contempt.
C)  documenting.
D)  mind reading.

Question 18

How does the interpersonal marketplace work in terms of physical attraction and resources?

Accepted Answer

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Question 19

Explain what is meant by the statement that we fall in love with someone who is similar to ourselves-the social characteristic of homophily.

Accepted Answer

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Question 20

"I know you think that I don't care much about sex,but I really wish I had more orgasms." This statement is an example of

Accepted Answer

A)  checking out.
B)  "I" language.
C)  documenting.
D)  mind reading.

Exam 11: Attraction, love, and Communication